{"id":35427,"date":"2025-11-26T22:38:41","date_gmt":"2025-11-26T22:38:41","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/the-hidden-costs-of-being-a-people-pleaser\/"},"modified":"2025-11-26T22:38:41","modified_gmt":"2025-11-26T22:38:41","slug":"the-hidden-costs-of-being-a-people-pleaser","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/the-hidden-costs-of-being-a-people-pleaser\/","title":{"rendered":"The Hidden Costs of Being a People-Pleaser"},"content":{"rendered":"
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It might look like generosity, but the reality of people-pleasing is less sanguine. When you reflexively agree to things you can\u2019t really afford<\/a> or obligations you can\u2019t easily honor, it takes a toll on your time, energy, and wallet.<\/p>\n

There\u2019s also a psychic toll. Ignoring your own wants and needs can leave you feeling hollow, anxious, resentful, and sad. \u201cWhen we\u2019re not being authentic to ourselves, when our self has no expression, that\u2019s basically what depression is,\u201d says trauma therapist Jane McCampbell Stuart, MA, LMFT, CPCC.<\/p>\n

The more habitual concessions you make to others, the more your authentic self will start to recede into the background. This can lead to isolation and\u00a0loneliness<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Chronic people-pleasers are also hard to read. \u201cThe other person ends up feeling exhausted and overwhelmed because they\u2019re constantly having to do the work of reaching you and decoding what you\u2019re saying,\u201d says \u00adMcCampbell Stuart. \u201cThey\u2019re always second guessing: \u2018Is this really you? Or are you just trying to make me happy?\u2019<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s a lot of work to be in a relationship with somebody who\u2019s not holding their own weight in the world.\u201d<\/p>\n

On top of that, \u00adMcCampbell Stuart adds, people who minimize their own needs<\/a> and make themselves small often attract others who take advantage of them. \u201cThat\u2019s when we get those repeated relationships where people are not taken care of, not treated very well.\u201d<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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Escape From People-Pleasing\n
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Free yourself from overcommitting and reclaim your energy while bringing more authenticity to your relationships by learning more at \u201cHow to Stop Being a People-Pleaser<\/a>,\u201d from which this article was excerpted.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n

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It might look like generosity, but the reality of people-pleasing is less sanguine. When you reflexively agree to things you can\u2019t really afford or obligations you can\u2019t easily honor, it takes a toll on your time, energy, and wallet. There\u2019s also a psychic toll. Ignoring your own wants and needs can leave you feeling hollow, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":35428,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[43],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-35427","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-life"],"publishpress_future_action":{"enabled":false,"date":"2026-10-25 15:42:20","action":"change-status","newStatus":"draft","terms":[],"taxonomy":"category","extraData":[]},"publishpress_future_workflow_manual_trigger":{"enabledWorkflows":[]},"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35427","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35427"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35427\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/35428"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35427"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35427"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gpnewswire.com\/news\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35427"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}